[This post is part 3 of RESOUND 2011]

What would you do differently?

This questions implies that I have regrets. It urges me to think what I ‘should have’ done. I don’t believe in should-haves. There were times this year when I massively regretted coming back to Germany and taking up the job in PR. Massive regrets and should-haves. I should have stayed in Asia. I should have kept on working as a dive instructor. I should have never started experimenting. I’ve overcome those regrets now. I’m glad I made decisions that I made, as I have developed them into the future. This year has taught me a lot BECAUSE of the seemlingly wrong turns I took. Weirdly, today, I have come to realise that they weren’t so wrong after all, that I unknowingly made the right decisions. (How is that even impossible?) So, my answer: Nothing. I wouldn’t do anything differently. Did I enjoy every decision I made? No, not always. I even hated the situations they brought me in. But I have learned. And that’s what life is all about for me.  

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8 Responses to Regrets.

  1. Alexandra says:

    If you wouldn’t have come to Berlin, we wouldn’t have been so pissed about your job and might not have started your blog, my friend. ;-)

    … and I wouln’t have subscribed to that blog and wouldn’t have been inspired by it… (I have a couple of questions for you the next time we meet)

  2. Tui Snider says:

    Yes! Exactly.

    “Should haves” suck!

    “Mistakes” are an important part of any life’s progress.

    I love your attitude – keep it up!

    See you tomorrow. :)


    • Conni says:

      Cheers, Tui! Glad you share that attitude with me :) I looked for the purpose in should-haves, but couldn’t find it. So I gave up and life is much more awesome like that :)

  3. Srinivas says:


    I’m reminded of the wise words of one of my oldest friend, shortly after we both had a huge falling out with some very close friends. She said “forget regret or life is yours to miss.”

    • Conni says:

      Very powerful words, Srini. Thanks so much for sharing. Regrets are just not worth it.. it’s a massive waste of energy. Energy we could use for more great things and thoughts. To a no-regrets life!!

  4. Hi Conni – nice to "meet" you. I jumped over here from Srini's tweet. :)
    I agree completely – there is no reason to waste time regretting. Our past got us here – and here is good.

    • Conni says:

      Nice to meet you too, Janice! :)

      You are so right, ‘here is good’. Couldn’t have said it better!

      (You have a beautiful website, and incredibly beautiful kids!!)