The Secret to Turning Your Crazy Dreams Into Reality

Written by Conni Biesalski. Follow me on Twitter.

The problem with dreams? As awesome as they can be big, they can also be very scary. And a lot of them just get stuck in the dream factory pipeline and never turn into reality. “One day…” or “In a few years…” slowly turn into never. Why? Because most of us don’t even take their dreams seriously. And even if they do, the vision of it is so blurry and the imagined path to it as steep as Mount Everest.

Want to know the truth? Making dreams happen is simple. Want to know how?

To get you going:

An extract of dreams I have turned into reality:

  • I wanted to become a dive instructor. I did it.
  • I wanted to live in Berlin for a year. I am doing it.
  • I wanted to travel the world long-term. Check.
  • I wanted to go to a US College. Check.
  • I wanted to live in the mountains and go snowboarding everyday as part of my lifestyle. Done.
  • I wanted to love and be loved and travel the world with a special someone. Got it.
  • I wanted to figure out my passions. All the way. Check.
  • I want to make make them real living parts of my life. On it.

You think all that’s just luck? That things have just always fallen into place in my life ? Far from it.

I really, really wanted all these things. They didn’t just knock on my door. They were in me and they were a manifestation of my true self.

I somehow get inspired and start thinking about it more and more. This IT slowly evolves into a personal idea, an aspiration. It starts to manifest in my mind and slowly turns into what we call a dream. I get obsessed. Then I think about ways to make it happen – more unconsciously than anything else. It’s like a force.

I come up with a plan and follow it step by step.

Then I make that dream happen.

I just do it. Not matter what.

No matter what the critics say.


Here is your blueprint:

Once you realise you want something…

1. Let your mind work on it and lull you into it.

2. Try to visualise the outcome – your goal – the realisation of your dream – and see what that feels like.

3. Absolutely believe in it. Do it. Control your thoughts. Kick out the doubts and all the pessimism.

4.Write down a roadmap. Ask yourself: “How do I get from where I am now to where I want to be?”

5. Start stupidly small. Take it baby-step by baby-step.

6. Persist and be patient. Don’t give up, please don’t give up. (Or go back to #3) There is no reason to give up. But you have to be patient. There might be detours and queues involved.

7. Research. Look who else is doing what you dream of. Find out how they got there. Get inspired. Keep researching and reading. Contact them.

8. Keep focusing on the outcome and taking one foot in front of the other.

9. Go for it. It might feel like running five marathons when you’ve just run seven. But you will always find the strength to pull through with it. And when you do: Embrace your achievement. Be proud of yourself. You deserve it.


Cheesy-but-true side quote: “Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss it, you will land among stars.” (Brian Littrell)


Watch this little video: Tom Waits reads Charles Bukovski’s “The Laughing Heart”. It’s a lovely poem that is highly inspirational and simply beautiful.

If you have trouble making dreams happen or you have failed in the past, I offer you to contact me. I would really like to talk to you and find out where and how you got stuck.

If anything, leave a comment below telling me about your experience or strategies of making dreams happen. How do you start, what’s your first step? What’s the hardest part? What is on your dream list?


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22 Responses to The Secret to Turning Your Crazy Dreams Into Reality

  1. Amit Sharma says:

    Hey Conni, I was waiting for last few days for your blog to start.. very nice look and refreshing content. though I read so many blogs almost everyday but you are making me start my own little blog space. Good Luck


    • Conni says:

      I highly appreciate your compliment, Amit!! Warms my heart :) If you have any questions on starting a blog, let me know! It’s a great process to go through, albeit hard work as well ;) All the best, Conni

  2. Tom Ewer says:

    Great post Conni! Your “blueprint” is spot on, as far as I am concerned.

    One of the biggest roadblocks to achieving what you want is actually believing that you can do it.

    More often than not, you are capable of far more than you give yourself credit for.

    • Conni says:

      Cheers, Tom, glad you liked it!!
      You’re so right! We really do lack belief in ourselves. But it’s a basic ingredient for success. The power of thoughts…really shouldn’t be underestimated.

      • Tom Ewer says:

        People (especially on the internet, natch) are far more interested in processes than mindset. But mindset often is the dominant force in driving you forwards.

        • Conni says:

          Absolutely, I agree. Unfortunately, I can’t plant that seed of confidence for this sort of mindset in people myself. I was lucky enough to have it in my DNA. Some folks really have to work hard on it. All I, and we, and so many other amazing guys out there can do at the end of the day, is inspire.

  3. Very inspiring! I think it’s of the utmost importance to DREAM BIG!!!

  4. AJ says:

    I’m jealous of your history (and future) or travel. Well done!

    Your quote from above–“I wanted to love and be loved and travel the world with a special someone. Got it.”

    How do you baby step or plan your way to something so amorphous? I can see the dream big part, but this one seems more like magic than something found by following a blueprint.

    • Conni says:

      Cheers, Angie! No need to be jealous, create your own future!

      Thanks for bringing up an important point. True, things like finding love are difficult if not impossible to achieve just by following a blueprint. And yes, part of it happening is magical.
      However, I really do believe in the power of your own thoughts – this means, after many failed relationships, I kept on believing and visualising. In the end, I agree, you can’t baby step love. ;)

  5. Nitro says:

    you know what? i have been thinking and pondering for a quite long time now. An then your blog rose, and gave me the necessary courage about this thing.
    Now im starting preparing my journey, because that is what I, like you, resemble being myself.
    I cant work out the right words (im italian, improving my english) to thank you enough for the example and the courage you are giving me right now

    May be the wind sustain your wings!
    Nitro the (yet) Nomad

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  7. segi baby says:

    Awesome expression… conni… I feelthe people who have taken charge of their creation are my own reflection… so beautiful…for life s beautiful expression of our higher self.. unconditional… non judgemental…I love to meet you soon… and I am already holding a awesome feel with that desire…. jai ho…..lots of love and light……

  8. This is inspiring Coni…am a graduate and not yet into formal employment. I decided to establish an NGO, with sole purpose of helping rural youths with appropriate information on how they can attain University Education. Without money and transport to take me into the remote areas of Zambia…gave me a lot of doubts, but I gained courage to get started no matter what it takes. I started and now its registered with 7 rural youths at the public University. Slowly we are moving!!

  9. Justin5599 says:

    You have a couple of things i dream about doing. I dream to go ski diving by myself and even do basejumping. I want to do white water kayaking, bungeejumping off something big. I would love to live in the mountains for a couple months and just ski all day, maybe be a ski instructor. I just want to live my life and just do crazy things. What the point of life if your not going to challenge yourself to go out of your comfort zone and have fun right? Anyways i was wondering how old you were when you first started following your dream? Im only 17 and i dont like to spend my money on stupid things because i want to save it to spend on crazy things. Your article inspired me even more though so for that, thank you.

  10. You’re so interesting! I don’t believe I’ve
    truly read through a single thing like this before.
    So wonderful to discover another person with a few genuine thoughts on this topic.
    Really.. many thanks for starting this up.
    This website is something that is needed on the web, someone
    with a little originality!

  11. Rishi says:

    Words Touched me inside, fueled my #Commitment to make my dreams alive.
    Thanks Conni, Just loved your blog! 

  12. neeraj says:

    Hi conni,
    I have some questions,how to build life after setbacks,how bad situations can be but how i can overcome them without being emotional,i am feeling stressed and depressed.

  13. Diana says:

    Really? I had constant dreams that am time travelling with aliens and I wake up on the run, that means I will? Dreams don’t always come true .

  14. Charmis Mae says:

    Hi Ms. Connie I find your lifestyle very interesting because I want also time freedom…

    I am currently working here in Dubai but I am from the Philippines, were you able to visit this country before?

    If you are planning to visit do you mind if we can meet? If you dont mind..

    God Bless

  15. Saney de Guzman says:

    Hi, Conni. I’m so grateful because i found such recommendation
    in order for me to turn my dreams into reality without hardworks workings
    more than 10hrs a day and still i havent find my dreams come true. I do believe
    in the power of universe. Abundance is the natural order of the universe w/c i read
    from one blog. I hope by this time it will work.