Written by Conni Biesalski. Follow me on Twitter.
The problem with dreams? As awesome as they can be big, they can also be very scary. And a lot of them just get stuck in the dream factory pipeline and never turn into reality. “One day…” or “In a few years…” slowly turn into never. Why? Because most of us don’t even take their dreams seriously. And even if they do, the vision of it is so blurry and the imagined path to it as steep as Mount Everest.
Want to know the truth? Making dreams happen is simple. Want to know how?
To get you going:
An extract of dreams I have turned into reality:
- I wanted to become a dive instructor. I did it.
- I wanted to live in Berlin for a year. I am doing it.
- I wanted to travel the world long-term. Check.
- I wanted to go to a US College. Check.
- I wanted to live in the mountains and go snowboarding everyday as part of my lifestyle. Done.
- I wanted to love and be loved and travel the world with a special someone. Got it.
- I wanted to figure out my passions. All the way. Check.
- I want to make make them real living parts of my life. On it.
You think all that’s just luck? That things have just always fallen into place in my life ? Far from it.
I really, really wanted all these things. They didn’t just knock on my door. They were in me and they were a manifestation of my true self.
I somehow get inspired and start thinking about it more and more. This IT slowly evolves into a personal idea, an aspiration. It starts to manifest in my mind and slowly turns into what we call a dream. I get obsessed. Then I think about ways to make it happen – more unconsciously than anything else. It’s like a force.
I come up with a plan and follow it step by step.
Then I make that dream happen.
I just do it. Not matter what.
No matter what the critics say.
Here is your blueprint:
Once you realise you want something…
1. Let your mind work on it and lull you into it.
2. Try to visualise the outcome – your goal – the realisation of your dream – and see what that feels like.
3. Absolutely believe in it. Do it. Control your thoughts. Kick out the doubts and all the pessimism.
4.Write down a roadmap. Ask yourself: “How do I get from where I am now to where I want to be?”
5. Start stupidly small. Take it baby-step by baby-step.
6. Persist and be patient. Don’t give up, please don’t give up. (Or go back to #3) There is no reason to give up. But you have to be patient. There might be detours and queues involved.
7. Research. Look who else is doing what you dream of. Find out how they got there. Get inspired. Keep researching and reading. Contact them.
8. Keep focusing on the outcome and taking one foot in front of the other.
9. Go for it. It might feel like running five marathons when you’ve just run seven. But you will always find the strength to pull through with it. And when you do: Embrace your achievement. Be proud of yourself. You deserve it.
Cheesy-but-true side quote: “Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss it, you will land among stars.” (Brian Littrell)
Watch this little video: Tom Waits reads Charles Bukovski’s “The Laughing Heart”. It’s a lovely poem that is highly inspirational and simply beautiful.
If you have trouble making dreams happen or you have failed in the past, I offer you to contact me. I would really like to talk to you and find out where and how you got stuck.
If anything, leave a comment below telling me about your experience or strategies of making dreams happen. How do you start, what’s your first step? What’s the hardest part? What is on your dream list?
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